Might be a fun thing for you and your partner to go see the movie in your respective cities? Then you can talk about what (if any!) truths there are to the movie together afterward? I’m will be seeing it – and will let you know my thoughts!

Trailer can be below.

1. Leaving is terrible. Its heart wrenching and awful – especially at first. Tears and complaining help – but do not fix it. It does get easier – but it takes time – time to settle into your new college or university and time to settle into the “distance”.
2. Staying put is worse. While I was moving on to this exciting new world, my boyfriend wasn’t. Yes, he was going to a new school – but the rest of his world stayed put. He didn’t move. He kept the same friends. This meant that the transition was harder for him – and I had to be sensitive to that.
3. You will meet people – you will think about dating them! No matter how doe-eyed and head over heels you are for your partner, other people will get your attention. If you don’t, then you aren’t meeting enough people! I think its normal to meet people, and start to wonder “what if?”. The majority of people you will eventually cast aside, realizing that your partner is waaaay better. But be ready for it.
4. Long distance is not all bad! There are some positives to long distance relationships. You get your own space and independence, traveling to see your partner can be really exciting, and the ‘honeymoon’ effect means that there will be lots of passion in the relationship!
5. You can find yourself in the worst of both worlds. If you dedicate yourself to your long distance partner by giving up a life for yourself at college or university then you are really just getting the worst of both worlds. You are far away from your partner which puts additional stress on the relationship AND you are not making the most of your college or university experience by meeting people, joining groups and having a good time. So, embrace your life! Don’t put your life on hold until you can be together – the more fun you have (whether you went away or stayed where you are) the better partner you will be and the better relationship you will have.

Coupledtogether.com has created a new way to connect with your long distance partner. The website allows you to create an online “space” to share – just for the two of you! In your space you can watch YouTube videos simultaneously, share photos (automatically looking at the same picture at the same time), leave notes for each other, chat (instant messenger style), draw on a blackboard together and more.

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You and your long distance partner have a big trip coming up (or are thinking of planning a trip) – together! Very exciting! One two week trip I took with my long distance partner was the longest time we had spent together… ever. It went well, but I was worried going into it. Would we be compatible travel partners? What if we didn’t get along as well as do on our normal visits? What did this trip mean for our relationship? I was stressing myself out – for no reason. Here are some ideas on things to consider when you are planning a trip with your long distance partner.

1. In order to plan a trip that both of you will look forward to, you need to know what kind of traveler you are – and what type of traveler your partner is. There are different “styles” of travel and you have to make sure you both come to some agreement on what type your trip will be. If you are the 5 star hotel type, and your partner is all into backpacking then some compromise is going to have to happen. Perhaps a cruise? Or staying in a nice resort in an off-the-beaten track area?
2. Budget together. If one partner is tighter with funds than the other, vacation expectations can be very different. You might want to take full advantage of your travel destination, while your partner may be on a strict budget and not willing to do some of the same things. Or, you may be expecting your partner to help you out with part of your costs but haven’t verified this with your partner. Take the time before the trip to estimate costs (including food, lodging, travel, entrance fees, tours, transportation, etc). And then discuss those costs with your partner to make sure everyone is clear on expected costs and who is going to pay for what.
3. Don’t be afraid to spend time apart – its okay if you need a break! After an extended period of time together you might need your space for an hour (or a day!) and that is perfectly fine. Suggest something that your partner would want to do and each of you can enjoy your separate time. Gives you that much more to talk about when you meet up later!
4. Try to learn things about your partner! Notice how they interact with strangers, appreciate the things they notice that you would not have, check out activities that interest them. You may see a whole other side to your partner. Hopefully a good side.
5. Do not let small things turn into big deals. You are both in a new place, experiencing new things, and bad things can happen. And bad things can lead to negative attitudes fast. So, try to not let that happen. If something bad happens – deal with it. And then try to get back on the happy vacation path.

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1) Favorite childhood memory?
2) Best highlighter marker color?
3) Website you visit most often?
4) Lemons or limes?
5) Worst day of your life?
6) What is your favorite place in your house?
7) Best picture you have every taken?
A regular normal thing that I do that turns you on?
9) Most patriotic you have ever felt?
10) When was the last time you were surprised?
11) Favorite food that I make?
12) Best time of day?
13) Disco or country music?
14) Most recent movie you have seen?
15) Nicest thing you have for someone else this week?
16) Books on the “to read soon” list?
17) Favorite star constellation?
18) The person you know who always is trustworthy?
19) The one possession you could not live without?
20) Favorite quote?