More Creative Ideas for Long Distance Relationships

Posted on 30. Apr, 2009 by lisa in Creative/Fun Ideas

Here are three creative ideas that you can use right now to talk to your partner (I know you are thinking that you are masters of talking… but keep reading!):

  1. Think of 10 things that you DON’T know about your partner – and then ask them! They can be a mix of fun information (e.g. favourite childhood toy), emotional (best/worst moment of their lives), weird stuff (e.g. oddest place they have done toilet actions), future dreams (e.g. what kind of location they imagine themselves living in 10 years) or anything else you can think of. You can probably come up with more than 10.
  2. Talk about a thing you have been meaning to talk about – tonight. In relationships of all kinds (but especially) long distance there can be a build up of things that you have been meaning to talk about, but just kinda haven’t. While waiting for the right time is sometimes a good option, sometimes that’s also just procrastinating what you know you need to do. There is no time like the present.
  3. Tell your partner how your truly appreciate them. You could list off all the reasons, or simply state it in a truly genuine fashion. But make sure they feel it.

Have other ideas for talking? Tell us!

Best Long Distance Relationship Songs

Posted on 26. Apr, 2009 by lisa in Long Distance Songs, Pop Culture

Music is important for life and relationships. Here are a few of the songs that talk directly (well, at least to me!) about long distance relationships.  Some are happy, some are sad… and the last one is for when you have no choice but to go it alone. Click on the song title to be brought to a video of the song:

There are tonnes of other lists online (including here and here). What are some of your favorite LDR songs?

Want to be in a Long Distance Relationship documentary?

Posted on 17. Apr, 2009 by lisa in Pop Culture

Are you in a long distance relationship?  Do you live in Europe?  Do you want someone to film you and your partner for a documentary?  Then you are in luck! LoveTrips is currenlty seeking couples to be a part of their documentary.

The director is hoping to explore the intricacies that couples in long distance relationship experience – including different cultures, the waiting, and communcication styles.  Though he admits to never being a part of an LDR in his own past, he sounds pretty interested in getting to know what all is involved in long distance.  They are looking for couples up until June 2009… so if you are interested, APPLY!

Anything to make saying good bye to my long distance partner easier?

Posted on 14. Apr, 2009 by lisa in Creative/Fun Ideas, General Relationship Advice, Getting Dirty

Saying good bye SUCKS! Does it get easier over time? No. Do you get used to it? Kinda. There are, however, some things you can do that make them more bearable.

1) I always find exchanging something (t-shirt, book, anything!) makes it better. I think it feels like I still have a little piece of them with me.

2) I also find that it helps to know when the next time we are going to see each other is. Kinda nice to have that to look forward to as you wave goodbye.

3) You don’t need to wait til the very very very end to turn away. If you are standing outside waiting for their bus to drive off or their train to move both of you just feel crappy. It doesn’t get any easier, in fact it gets harder. Don’t do it! Say your goodbyes when you are together, and then move on. Its still painful… but it seems to not last as long.

Other ideas?

Going the Distance – the movie!

Posted on 04. Apr, 2009 by lisa in Other sites, Pop Culture

Rumour has it that there is a new movie about long distance relationships that is going to start filming soon!  Who are the stars?  Drew Barrymore, and her (supposed ex) Justin Long have been cast as leads in the romantic comedy.  Um, isn’t that going to be awkward?

Anyway, the movie will be titled “Going the Distance” and will follow the couple trying to maintain a long-distance relationship after Barrymore’s character moves to Chicago.

Hopefully the movie will include lots of good ideas for other couples doing long distance.  Seeing as there are lots of celebrity LDRs I’m assuming that won’t be a problem!

Lube for Long Distance Relationships

Posted on 01. Apr, 2009 by lisa in Getting Dirty

lube imageFor those of you who are getting it on, I found this interesting Q&A in the amazing book The Guide to Getting it On that tells me much more than I need to know about lube for long distance couples. Thought I would share (pg 181 to 182)…

Q: Dear Paul, while I don’t usually have problems getting wet, my boyfriend and I can only see each other on weekends and there are times when I could really use an assist by Sunday afternoon. Is there a lube that you can suggest?

A: There are times when nature’s own sex fluids are spread too thin and people will need a store-bought assist. This is especially true if you are using condoms, if you are taking certain medications including anti-depressants and antihistamines, and if you only see your boyfriend on the weekends.

When considering what type of lube to use, it depends on the kind of sex you are having and the kind of feeling you and your partner enjoy. This is because different lubes leave different sensations.

For instance, since you and your partner are cramming seven day’s worth of sex into two, you might consider a lube that lasts a long time and that doesn’t have any taste. A lube like Eros has a slight cushioning effect, is perfectly safe to use with condoms and has a light oily feeling that some people enjoy. If you rub it between your fingers, you can still feel the ridges. If you put it in your vagina, you can still feel the skin on your boyfriend’s penis going to and fro.

Lets say your boyfriend moves back home and you need an excellent all-around lube. Liquid silk really does have a silky feeling. It is close to the way a woman’s natural lubrication feels and it does not contain glycerin. It is not as slick and “fast” as some other lubes. You’ll get plenty of lubrication but also plenty of sensation. Liquid Silk tends to soak into the skin so it won’t feel like you need to wash it off. It also helps moisturize vaginal tissues. Some physicians recommend it for menopausal women. Tell your mom to massage it on her outer lips and one or two inches insider her vagina twice a day.

Lubes that are glycerin based tend to be slicker than most which means if you rub them between your fingers, you won’t feel the ridges as much as you will with Liquid Silk or Eros. People who prefer these lubes say they feel “really fast”. Interpret that any way you like.

And what if you and your boyfriend are fisting, doing anal play or swinging with other couples? Good lubes might be Maximus or Sex Grease. These are thicker than most lubes and won’t dry out as fast. They provide a light cushion and stay exactly where you put them.

Places that sell sex lubes each have their favourites, and many will totally disagree with the brands I’ve mentioned here. Why not see if you can get sampler packs and have fun finding which lubes work best for you?