Kissing over the distance
Posted on 30. Aug, 2009 by lisa in General Relationship Advice, Long Distance Songs, Pop Culture, Real Relationships, Technology for Long Distance Relationships
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Introducing the KissPhone!
The KissPhone detects percussion speed, pressure, temperature, and sucking force of the lips, when you kiss it. This is then transferred through the mobile networks to your partner who can receive that kiss on their phone. You can also save kisses or receive kisses from a “kissbank” (e.g. a kiss from Madonna or some imaginary hero).
While I think the concept is interesting – if I came across someone making out with their phone I would be completely weirded out! But, who knows…maybe this is the next big thing? Do you think you would enjoy sending/receiving these virtual kisses?
Are couples in long distance relationships more likely to cheat or have affairs?
Posted on 27. Aug, 2009 by lisa in General Relationship Advice, Trust/Jealousy
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Nope. Couples in long distance relationships are no more likely to cheat than local couples. While this may be surprising – it really shouldn’t be. My mother once commented that anyone can go out the door on any day and find someone to cheat with – its being true blue that’s a challenge. She kinda has a point. I’m pretty sure we can all walk out our front doors and if we asked every single person we ran into if they would like to ‘get it on’ eventually someone would agree. But we don’t do that! Why? Because we are in a relationship and we do love (or at least really like!) our partners and we just couldn’t risk causing pain to them.
I think all of us in long distance relationships should stop worrying about our partners cheating. You can never be with your partner 100% of the time even if you do live in the same city. All you can really do is have faith that they are faithful. So, unless you have real evidence that something is going on – Trust your partner. They are probably being just as loyal to you as you are to them.
College relationships – Help for soon to be long distance couples
Posted on 24. Aug, 2009 by lisa in Communication, Creative/Fun Ideas, Distance Factors, General Relationship Advice
If you are heading to college in September, you might be wondering about your relationship, and how/if/should you continue it once you no longer live in the same city. My vote? Absolutely! Yes, there are a number of common errors and unique problems to long distance relationships, but they are just as likely to succeed as local relationships. Just keep communicating and keep trusting.
To make sure it stays fun, here are some creative ideas to help get you though it!
Creative Ideas – Some dirty fun
Posted on 21. Aug, 2009 by lisa in Creative/Fun Ideas, Getting Dirty, Other sites
Looking for some sexy ideas of things to do with your partner? Try some of these out!
Hoochy mail. I haven’t tried it my self, but it sounds like they have a lot of happy customers. You give them some details and they will create a dirty message and send it to your partner.
Lingerie Show. Who says that your new purchases have to go undiscovered until you see each other? Break out the video camera and show them off!
Play truth or dare. Whether played instantly on a webcam or over a couple of days over email this game is endless. You can keep it dirty (e.g. dance sexy for a dare) or simply get to know each other better (e.g. whats the one thing they would rescue if their home caught fire for a truth).
Got other ideas for creative ways to connect with your partner? I’d love to hear about them in the comments.
Long distance love e-card
Posted on 20. Aug, 2009 by lisa in Creative/Fun Ideas, Other sites
Ever wanted to send an e-card to your long distance partner? Here is a super cheesy one (that is free!)
Government website for when couples live apart
Posted on 18. Aug, 2009 by lisa in Distance Factors, General Relationship Advice
The US government has a website set up with suggestions for members of the Foreign Service when they are about to face a geographic separation from their partners.
There is even a government course for LDRs! If you are a Foreign Server member in the Washington, DC, area, you can take a course titled ‘Maintaining Long Distance Relationships’. This course identifies behaviours that strengthen often-apart or long-distance relationships.
One good sugestion (if it applies to you) is to remember that the separation experience is time-limited. Put on paper the reasons for accepting this separation and refer to it periodically, as a reminder. The site has a number of other suggestions as well… check it out.
I had no idea the government was into this kind of thing!
Love Long Distance – the gossip
Posted on 15. Aug, 2009 by lisa in Long Distance Songs, Pop Culture
More songs! I freaken love the gossip. So I was super excited when I found this song. Great video too 
Long Distance Song – Asia Cruz
Posted on 13. Aug, 2009 by lisa in Long Distance Songs, Pop Culture
Asia Cruz is the newest pop singer to come out with a song about long distance relationships.
Its kinda a generic song – but her voice is good. Want more songs? Check out our list here.
Long Distance Relationship Mistakes
Posted on 10. Aug, 2009 by lisa in Distance Factors, General Relationship Advice, Trust/Jealousy
Try to avoid these common LDR errors:
- Setting Expectations too high: Expecting nothing but perfection will just have you asking to get your heart broken. Be realistic about who your partner is and what you need from them.
- Letting your heart run away with you: Absence does make the heart grow fonder. Make sure your relationship is based on reality, otherwise a relationship that should fizzle may keep going for longer than it should.
- Not having a plan: When you look forward to the future you should be able to see an end to the separation.
- Going for the wrong reasons: If you’re simply lonely and want somebody to talk to, find an online friend. A long-distance romantic relationship is not going to succeed unless your whole heart is in it because you can’t imagine being with anybody else.
- Not being able to pay: The further the distance, the more expensive the travel costs. Traveling to see your partner is what fuels the relationship. If you can’t travel to see each other (or travel to move) then its probably better not to get started in the first place.
- Giving your suspicions free reign: Are they cheating? Are they as committed? Have trust. These kinds of questions can’t take over and lead an otherwise healthy relationships to demise.
- Letting others talk you out of your commitment: Nobody is in this relationship but you and your partner; and so they can’t truly give you an educated opinion. The only thing that should influence your decisions about your relationship are what you and your partner expect–not what others expect of you.
Real Life Couple: A wedding after four years of long distance
Posted on 07. Aug, 2009 by lisa in Creative/Fun Ideas, Pop Culture, Real Relationships
Mainland Chinese actress Hu Jing, 30, and Malaysian business tycoon Frank Choo, 43, married last Sept 27 (2008) after a 4 year long distance courtship. They met through a mutual friend in 2004. Was it love at first sight for them? Both replied that although they quickly warmed up to each other, looks had little to do with it.
Hu said she was taken by his resemblance to a cartoon character. “His adorable eyebrows reminded me of Crayon Shin-chan (a character in a popular Japanese manga/anime series). I like that he has a good sense of humour,” she added, pinching his cheek.
Choo admitted he was smitten by her boyish character. Said Choo: “I’m not inclined to the girly sort. Her boyish and straightforward personality won me over. Her concern was that we wouldn’t be able to sustain our relationship past the initial spark of romance. So, an initial probationary period of three months was set.” What happened after that? “Well, we extended the warranty period!” he added.
Much chattier than the groom, Hu was more forthcoming with romantic details of their long-distance courtship. “The Internet is really quite wonderful. He’d use it to order flowers to be sent to my home in Beijing. Often, I’d arrive home after a long day of filming and throw open my doors to find fresh flowers waiting for me. It was wonderfully thoughtful of him and that reminded me that I was not alone.”
Cute!
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