5 things NOT to do in a long distance relationship

Posted on 25. Feb, 2010 by lisa in General Relationship Advice, Trust/Jealousy

Here is a list of 5 things that you shouldn’t do in a long distance relationship (or any relationship for that matter). If you start to see your partner doing these things its time to have a serious chat.

1. Too much negativity

Negativity can come from others or from ourselves, but either way negativity and relationships don’t mix. Try to stay positive. Long distance relationship can and do work.

2. Dwindling Enthusiasm

Keeping the fire burning constantly can be difficult in a long distance relationship. However, a little technology and some creative thinking can go a long way. If you do start to feel the passion eroding, and you are longing for your partner less and less take some time to figure out if the relationship is still what you want.

3. Constant Investigations or Suspicions

Always wondering where your partner is? Concerned they are cheating? Most likely they are not. And unfounded accusations can really erode a relationship fast. If distrust seems to be getting worse, you need to determine if it is your own insecurities or if you really have cause for concern.

4. Going for a Temporary Replacement

Letting someone else into your life as a temporary replacement for your loved one who’s not physically around is (in the words of Pretty Woman) big mistake. Big. Huge. Yes, it can happen unintentionally, but if it continues it turns into one large step away from your partner.

5. Frequent Misinterpretation of Each Other

Couples who are next to each others sometimes misinterpret one another’s thoughts, words or actions. These misinterpretations just get worse with distance. Misinterpretations are, once in a while, pretty normal. But if it happens each time that you get to communicate with one another, it can mean the two of you are starting to grow apart.

Serial long distance dating

Posted on 18. Feb, 2010 by lisa in Distance Factors, Real Relationships

I have a confession. I’m a serial LDRer. I got out of one long distance relationship (LDR), and then got right back into another one. And you know what? My ex also is doing long distance right now.

Is this just me? And him? Or is there something to this type of relationship that some people just seem to take to? Or is it that people are moving around so much now that it just happens?  Have you been in more than one LDR?

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Posted on 13. Feb, 2010 by lisa in Creative/Fun Ideas, General Relationship Advice

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day!

If you haven’t planned anything special, its not too late.  You don’t need anything dramatic – just something to let them know that you think they are the greatest. Some ideas:

  • List their best qualities.  Tell them what they are on the phone or put them in an email.
  • Think about your top 5 favorite times together.  Reminisce about them with your partner.
  • Is there a movie/art show/event you know your partner wants to see that is going on now?  Call one of their single friends and ask them to bring your partner to the event. They will both enjoy it.
  • Create your own Valentines Day madlibs. Have your partner fill it in.

More ideas. In general, just make sure your partner knows how much you appreciate them.

Need more ideas for Valentine’s Day!

Posted on 10. Feb, 2010 by lisa in Creative/Fun Ideas

Do you still not have the perfect idea for Valentine’s day on what to do for your long distance partner?

Here are 101 Romantic Ideas http://www.scribd.com/doc/5275/101-Romantic-Ideas – hopefully one (or more!) will work for you.

Google Superbowl Ad – The searches long distancers do

Posted on 08. Feb, 2010 by lisa in Other sites, Pop Culture

Anybody watch the Superbowl?  Well, more importantly the commercials? Google did an interesting ad for themselves – all through the searches someone does travelling, meeting someone, trying to impress them, contemplating long distance, and then settling down.  Good job google.

Valentine’s Day Ideas for Long Distance Relationships

Posted on 08. Feb, 2010 by lisa in Creative/Fun Ideas, General Relationship Advice

Valentines day is quickly approaching!  (Its on Sunday February 14th for those of you who are wondering…).  Even if you live far away from your partner there are still lots of ways to show you care!

  • Email Valentines: Start today… and send your partner an e-Card (or even just an email with some fun images you created) everyday til Valentines day .
  • Plan a wakeup call for Valentine’s morning, ensuring that the first words your lover hears on Valentine’s Day are either “I love you,” or “I had a dream about you last night…”
  • Arrange to send flowers to their work/home: There is a reason why this is a classic – people like to receive flowers!

Want more?  Find lots of additional creative ideas here. And don’t be afraid to think of creative things that your partner would really appreciate – remember that it is the thought that counts.

Image source www.vegetarianwomen.com.