Meet me halfway
Posted on 26. Mar, 2010 by lisa in Creative/Fun Ideas, Distance Factors
Depending on how far apart you live from each other, here is an idea to cut your travel time in half. Meet your partner halfway! Look at a map, find something (anything!) that is about halfway between you and your partner. Thus, if you live 4 hours away from your partner – travel time gets cut to only two hours! You can have a motel rendezvous, check out some touritsty stuff, or just a dinner date.
(sorry for couples who live a flight away… this won’t really help you out).
You are not alone… at least not online
Posted on 23. Mar, 2010 by lisa in Communication, Getting Dirty, Technology for Long Distance Relationships
A survey of Canadian college students found that 87% of more than 2,500 respondents ‘fessed up to getting dirty online via tools like instant message, webcams, and text message.
This can help relationships, as partners communicate more about their sexual preferences – especially talking about what turns them on. “Just like any other form of human communication, sexual communication is evolving,” says Noah Gurza (who ran the survey). “People communicate their sexual desires quite freely via virtual sex, which might not be the case in real-time sexual connections. Many virtual connections are just precursors for the real thing and as such, this initial openness might lead to increased openness when the sexual deed occurs — this is a good thing.”
“Cell phone text sex is also changing the rules, as it makes it transportable, and can be done from anywhere, not having to be confined in front of a desktop,” Gurza sayss. “It makes it much more immediate and getting down to the point, as text messaging is all concise communication.”
Distance certainly didn’t stop Tiger Woods.
(Image from http://trueslant.com/donovan/files/2009/12/tiger_texts.jpg)
Your partner is not a mind reader – don’t hold it against them!
Posted on 22. Mar, 2010 by lisa in Canadiana, General Relationship Advice
Here is another LDR question/answer from my an advice columnist who I tend to like. The Lesson? Tell your partner what you are thinking!
Q: After two years of a long-distance relationship, we’re meeting soon. He’s smart, funny, manages a job and university really well. He lives in Britain, I’m in Canada, so he stays up to have our daily chat.
But when I’m sad he can’t really tell. I’m emotional and sensitive and always had this expectation that if I’m close to a guy, he should be able to take care of me when I’m feeling down. It’s not easy for me to open up or say that I’m sad and I want him to ask me why. I hint, sound sad, write small replies, but he doesn’t get it. Then we end up fighting … more like me fighting, complaining about his mistakes and him saying sorry. It’s the only huge problem we’re unable to deal with.
Is it my fault? My life in comparison to his is pretty easy. I don’t have to work and my only worry is about university. I do have family issues; he’s an introverted person but opens up to me easily. And he’s committed, too. I’m sure he cares, but why doesn’t he show it? Or are my expectations too high?
Confused
A: Close, committed relationships rarely run smoothly through all the varied emotions both parties experience. The fact that you two have stayed close and committed for two years without ever meeting, shows great determination on both parts.
But, yes, your expectations are too high, especially when you only send out hints of sadness and expect him to catch on, instead of being straightforward. Stop the guessing game. It’s more fair to both to say, “Hey, my family (or whatever) really has me down today.”
Your British Connection seems like a good guy. Give him real information and stop agonizing over a problem that can be solved if you just speak up. It means looking after yourself to get what you need, which is a reality in relationships, rather than your fantasy that someone always knows when to take care of you.
Real Relationships: Carrie Underwood and Mike Fisher
Posted on 17. Mar, 2010 by lisa in Pop Culture, Real Relationships, Trust/Jealousy
Doing long distance for over a year now doesn’t seem to have had any negative effects on Carrie Underwood and Mike Fisher’s relationship. The recently engaged couple talked to People magazine, with Underwood quoted as saying “Leave it to me to pick someone in another country to date – and marry! But if it’s worth it, you make it work, right? … Not being in the same room won’t lessen our relationship … We completely have faith in each other.”
Got the long distance relationship blues?
Posted on 13. Mar, 2010 by lisa in Uncategorized
This guy has the long distance blues – in a good way. This blues song may not make you feel less blue… but it will give you something great to listen to.
